I still could remember the 2 persons that I met yesterday. Not very particular incidents, but it just tickles my other side of senses. I was having a chat with 18-year-old Nur and as usual I kept a very interested mode towards 'people'. There was a question which popped up suddenly, no, not really suddenly but usually I would ask whenever I met this kinda situation. I was asking if her marriage was an arranged one or she chose herself to get married. She answered the former without any hesitation. I was indeed a lil stunned though I had a lil clue because she has not got pregnant till now. I brought up the topic of school and she said she was interested schooling but her mother made her married to a distant relative. Whether it was a joy or not, simply from her look, she doesn't seem to be bothered much.
I had a chance to speak to her husband 5 mins later when she was away collecting her documents. I introduced myself and quickly I made him feeling comfortable with our conversation. I was indeed very interested to find out the view of this 25-year-old man. I asked the same question and he said they liked each other and that's why they were getting married at such a young age. My eyes almost rolled up completely. I probed again though I know it didn't sound so comfortable. Why not wait till she had finished studying? He just gave me a smile and said, I dunno.
I don't know who is speaking the truth but of course I'd buy what Nur said rather than the husband because guys always have a lil ego here, ahahaha. Looking into the eyes of Nur, I feel an empty space. I don't know how to describe but I think there is a huge void to be filled in her life. I am not sure whether early marriage would be really feasible even though people are pushing everyone to get married earlier in view that the world statistical population in the affluent countries like Singapore is down going. Can having more kids quickly fill the gap of loneliness when we get old, or is it a long term plan that the children will support us when we grow older? Anyone of this definitely reflecting selfishness because all we thinking are about ourselves, nothing but ourselves.
Right, let's move on to Jan, a mother who just got pregnant again at 45 years old. She was attending to her daughter a week ago when he daughter got a miscarriage. Yes, my jaw opened as well! It was funny how she was telling me that taking care of a girl is so much harder than taking care of a buffalo!! Ahahahaha...I let out a grin, a very big one. The first time I heard about how stubborn can be related to a phrase like that. As usual, being curious, I was asking how could she blame her daughter when she claimed she was very strict with her daughter. "Well, she never listens. I had to make sure she come back from school and stay home". I rebutted how did her daughter got pregnant then? She was saying the daughter often asking to go to the library on weekends and that's how it happened. Hmmm....mother oh mother, as if you hadn't been a young lady before.
I found it a lil amusing how she blamed her daughter but not seeing the flaws in her while taking care of her child. She was only 17 years old. And she got married because of the pregnancy and now with a miscarriage, I was wondering what the husband might think. I mean marrying because of pregnant vs not pregnant really makes a huge difference. So yes, ladies out there. Take care coz any mistakes made, stick on to you the rest of your lives.
Well, I have been blabbering here quite alot. I am in fact a lil tired coz last night not being able to sleep well. Mostly because of the weather and this morning got to wake up in the morning and travelling to the substation before proceeding back to the office to give a talk and run a course for the staff. And still there are people who don't believe I could be so busy. Well imagine 8 working hours and you got to cramp everything into that 8hrs including travelling time. Hmm..pretty hurry huh.
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Let's talk a lil on David's progression. I am reading David as a grown up now working as a cook specialist with the American Air Force. He was definitely so determined but the part when he received a letter with non-returned mailing address from his alcoholic father, he was at a dash. He wanted to help but not able to find his dad. He was dreaming to buy a house so that he could stay and take care of his dad one day at Lake River. But when he received a call regarding his dad few months later, he got to know he was hospitalized because of some neck tumour. Despite how his mother treated him during his childhood, he did not harbour much hatred towards the mother. But the mother continuously hated him even though he still dreamed of one day the family will come together. When the dad touched Dave and gave him his only dignity which was his fireman batch, that moment was so touching that tears were felt behind throat. Dave yearned so much for his father's love since young even though the father walked outta family and he still thought that it was the hardest decision a dad could do and ended up being a miserable drunkard. Dave always felt what happened to his family was all his fault, be it the separation of the abusive mother and the drunkard dad, the brainwashed siblings and everything. Dave had regular nightmares about the mother who was all the time there to check on him and played games like making him to drink detergents and ammonia, making him sleep at the bunk without any blankets, starving him everyday and he had to steal food to live, threatening to kill him if he didn't listen to her whether to do all the chores after school, etc and most terrifying was stabbing him in the chest and also dislocating his right shoulder. That's crazy but this is the past now. He has a future to face but the trauma has been hunting him every night. Dun think his dad was gonna stay any longer as Steve nurse said that his illness was terminal and it was just a matter of days. Now that Dave is in the hospital with the dad, can't wait to read further. Hang on there ya, Dave.
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