Rollercoaster drill

There is definitely some mixed feelings today. There was just so much tears going on. Tears of joy and sadness. No, not me, but the circumstances left me pondering.

After much of a waiting, finally there's hope for JL. She's again pregnant after a 5-year interval. The moment she was waiting had arrived. On top of that, it was a double happiness. She's got a twin! Tears were seen running from the side of her eyes when the news broke. The husband too joined the joy and couldn't believe his eyes when he was asked what did he see on the screen.

Husband: Err...that's the baby? Quickly the wife quipped: Yes, that's one and....?

The husband was confused awhile before feeling so amazed of seeing another baby on the screen. There are just too many twins lately that it almost hitting the record for the century, no, it wasn't a joke.

While there was joy for this couple, the story changed for JC. Three months ago when she was diagnosed as having twin, she had the same feeling. The joy and pride of being a mother. But three months later, she had to bear the news that one of the twin might not survive. The fetus is failing to thrive in the womb. She feels helpless. A day of living, is another day of anxiety. Basically, she was told that her baby's heart might stop pumping any moment. Up to date, he's still alive.

Who says womb is the safest place, when this mother herself is feeling so helpless, not being able to save her own child in her own body. The second fetus might succumb to the same problem of his unborn sibling. So, her tears, reflect the hardship of life, and if this pregnancy was the only offer of consolation for her, it in fact bears a false hope afterall. Who says life is not mean?

I have the same sympathy for her as for all the unfortunate mothers and unborn children. It's indeed a long battle that only the strong will survive. However hard the feelings they went through, it is not our right to put more pressure onto their shoulders.

MC finally broke down during a one-to-one session talk. After some ice-breaking and searching for her trust, she finally opened up. Being in a relationship which was not consented by both the parents seems to be real distressing. What more if the boyfriend already has a wife. Though she is agreeable to the notion of being the second wife, the parents remained sceptical. Afterall, the boyfriend had not broken the news to the first wife, so probably she would end up being a mistress of unknown identity.

Bearing a child at this stage proves to be challenging. She neither this nor that. Her future remains vague. She's gonna put in too much trust on this guy who promised to wed her soon, but how soon would that be? But who are to judge her decision. Everyone has the right to make their own decision. Afterall, she is expected to deliver her baby next month, which time will tell everything.

Making a decision is always difficult. Especially when it has got something to do with ethics. TA has a steady boyfriend but they don't always meet. It's a long distance relationship. But one mistake, and she's pregnant now. A very early pregnancy, which she is still thinking of ways to remove it. That would be very mean and irresponsible, ey? Again, who are we to judge. If the unwanted pregnancy were to continue, would it be fair for the baby in future? Nobody can tell.

She is a tough lady who won't break down easily but her on and off teary eyes were caught off guarded. She's afterall a lady with a heart like others. Who would want to take a way of living in herself? It's a tough decision but she had to bear it alone. The guys always get to escape on this part, bluek.... (no la, don't mean that way, some guys do care too). But the rational behind her decision was so clear.

It was a tough day indeed with lots of emotional roller-coaster feeling. It's just so easy to be a listener but to tell them what to do, it is so not easy. I learn today that being a listener is not always about solving the problems. By listening, you share the pain of others, thus reducing the stress of others even though the problems are not solved. That's why we are given two ears and only one mouth. More listening, less talking.

PS: I was reading on the story covering life in somalia. One part of somalia where it was called a lawless land. Looking at the famine looking children and sadness in their mothers' faces, I am still in doubt. I know it would sound a lil shallow or disrespect, but it always hit the mind. Why in such a horrendous living environment, still there are people who give births to so many kids who ended up risking death due to poor nutrition. Isn't life clear enough to show that any being on this land is subjected to cruelty of nature and human themselves? Why the kids?