There was a post previously on 'What makes a baby'. Now let's talk something on 'What makes a parent'. I won't be discussing into too details because the night is not so young afterall. I remember when I was in 4th form, I was representing the school for an interschool debate on this topic: Moral decadence of youths today is due to the lack of parental responsibility. I have these words stuck right behind my brain for years!! I find it a very interesting topic to talk on.
It has become so unbecoming that these days we see children are suffering because of the adults' action. I have seen mothers at 13 years old. I have seen father at 15 years old. We even read that the youngest father in England was probably that small lil 13-year-old kid. Ok, I am not discriminating on age. But how sure are you that you are really ready to become a parent. I see big family where kids were free to roam everywhere as if nobody care they were gonna jump into the river behind their house, or run across the road with full of traffic. When things happen, then only they starte blaming this and that but not themselves. These people however keep on producing progenies when they even didn't have the means to support the basic needs of their kids. Oh yes, they sure do. Probably they thought the basic needs were food (less nutritions), shelter (crowded rooms), and what else? Er...forget it, afterall they'd still be breathing tomorrow by just having these two main things in life.
Nooo......that's so wrong. Nowadays, kids need educations. They need proper food for growth. They need proper clothings, and on top of that, they need LOVE! Yes LOVE. Parents often give the reason that this is beyond their control which I think is total b*llsh*t. We have the means for family planning. We are not living at dark ages anymore. We have meds, we have devices to help us, why don't we use them! Of course having a kid or not despite using this is totally up to ....HIM. But at least we try. You won't get pregnant if you didn't have xxx. That's the logic as simple as 1,2,3.
OK, so I have the right to have as many kids I want. But have you ever thought that your kids have the right to live like other kids as well, like being LOVEd? You are simply depriving them of all these because of your undue plannings! That's so wrong. So you choose to have 10 sick kids because they didn't get proper food, rather than having 3 educated and healthy kids? Come on. Kids are not toys. They will be the person moulded by your action. They went into crimes, and you just raised your hands and shook your head while sighing, 'see, I told you oredy'. That's so unfair.
Let's see a scenario. There was a 14-year-old girl who was living with g'ma in a poor village. Both parents chose to go to the city to look for a living. This girl followed her bf and was brought to a camp where there were lotsa guys. She got pregnant and realized it wasn't what she expected and ran away. She was found by her father's friend who brought her back to her father in the city. Father was like raising the hands and shook his head while saying, " I send you money every month to study but you ended up like. What happened to you? Why are you doing all these?" And just ignored her then. He had no sense of guilt at all. What do you think? Who is the main culprit. The innocent and unattended 14-year-old girl who wrongly believed her bf and got herself pregnant or the selfish father who left her since she was born and even never realized she went missing but just sighing after finding out about this problem of hers. You be the judge.
Do you think that minors can probably make a right decision for themselves? They are at a stage of learning about life. They need a role model to show them what is right and what is not. So when things went out of hand, fingers were pointed at them. Come on, even adults don't make right decisions and how do you expect these kids to fend for themselves. So stop telling me that in India there are also thousands of street kids or the phillipines or where ever and 'so-what?' kinda attitude coz this shouldn't be happening in the first place. Not even in India, not even in Africa and most of all NOT EVEN HERE where we have all the means to plan a family.
Ok, that's just a penny worth of thought. That's why I don't get bored listening to this song "we are the world" coz it's really so meaningful. Kids are the future leaders. They are what you moulded them into tomorrow. Look at the kids and you will know the parents well though this doesn't apply to all families. But again, give these kids a life that they deserve. Start planning today for a better tomorrow, for you and me and your kids....
Opss....didn't expect this to be so long. Tomorrow we are having aerobic in the office after work. Some sort of health programme for the staff. Afterall, it's our health.
Nite nite...
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